Everything’s such a big freakin’ deal to my amygdala. Time and time again I have to talk him off the ledge. Like this:
- Maybe it’s really not such a big deal. Sure, my emotions are big, but that doesn’t necessarily make the situation big.
- Maybe the way I’m thinking and feeling right now is under the influence of some stupid old cognitive-emotional pattern in my brain, rather than a true assessment of what’s going on.
- In most situations the stakes really aren’t very high. Most interactions and situations are just normal, and they’re not evaluations.